WHAT YOU CAN DO...
Learn more about the root causes of violence, the warning signs and
Spread the Word:
We can all be part of the solution. Encourage your employer to sponsor a
violence awareness workshop or arrange a community drive to support a
local shelter. Sponsor an awareness workshop in your workplace.
Reach Out: Offer
support without judgement or conditions to someone in need. Provide
information on help that is available in your area.
ADVICE FOR PARENTS...
Be honest with your
children. Help them to understand that abusing a loved one is wrong and
that you (and they) are not responsible for the abuse. Your children
need to know that violence has no place in dating or intimate
relationship and that using violence to punish or control another is
wrong! Encourage them to communicate their feelings (both the good and
the bad) in a productive, healthy manner -- one that reinforces mutual
respect and non-violence.
CALL TO ACTION...
The impact of domestic
violence permeates the boundaries of the home. Our workplaces, our
schools, playgrounds and neighborhoods have felt and will continue to
feel its effects if we fail, both personally and professionally, to
contribute to its end!
If you are confused about
the relationship -- and are not sure if it is abusive, please, consider
Has/is someone you know:
- Harming or threatening to harm a child, partner, spouse or family
- Repeatedly withholding money from a spouse or partner?
- Continually jealous, making irrational accusations against his/her
- Restricting their partner/spouse from seeing family or friends?
- Abusing drugs and/or alcohol?
- Forcing sex upon their partner/spouse?
- Constantly criticizing, humiliating, or degrading their
partner/spouse and/or children.
- Using physical violence to control the actions of their
partner/spouse and/or children.
The term domestic
violence actually refers to a range of behaviors including child abuse,
assault of the elderly and/or disabled, physical aggression between
siblings, and violence between intimate or dating partners. Violence is
used by one person in the relationship to abuse, control, or dominate
the other through force, fear, and/or intimidation.
An abusive act, whether
verbal, physical, emotional, or other, is seldom an isolated incident.
the initial, more subtle forms of abuse (i.e., name calling, put down,
irrational jealousy) effect a pattern of insidious perpetual conduct.
Tragically, the dismissal of these "benign" behaviors will most
certainly evolve into the more lethal forms of physical violence.
There is no excuse for
violence! Nor should any form of violence be considered an acceptable
form of discipline. Stress induced by work, family, or finances cannot
explain it and using drugs or alcohol will never justify it. Violence is
a behavioral choice -- it is wrong and it is criminal.
The effects of violence
on children are, at best, grossly underestimated. Without regard, many
are living the consequences of domestic violence committed in their
Witnessing violence can
be as traumatic for children as being victims of it. However, the
evasive impact masks injuries far beneath the skin's surface. Sadly, the
fact remains that violence perpetuates because children see, hear and
understand more than we've given them credit for.
Such exposure and
experience will teach children two very powerful life lessons:
- We use violence to resolve conflict and relieve stress.
- Violence and intimacy go hand in hand.
If you are concerned
about what your child has seen or heard or if you feel that your child
is engaging in certain at risk behaviors, please get informed and get
Suggestions of what to bring with you if you
- Identification (Drivers
License, Social Security Cards, Insurance Cards, Welfare I.D.) for you
and your children
- Credit cards (In your
- Birth certificates (for
you and the children)
- Marriage Certificate or
- Restraining orders
- Probate Court orders
- Money and ATM cards
- Calling cards
- Car registration and title
- Checkbooks and bankbooks
with withdrawal slips
- House and car keys
- Medications (or keep a
list with you including refill numbers and pharmacy)
- Address book
- Medical Records
- School records
- Green Card or Passports
- Work Permits
Emergency: Dial 9-1-1
East Bridgewater Police
Department: (508) 378-7223
Inc. - Domestic Violence Ended - Shelter, Services & Education
24 HR Hotline 1-888-314-DOVE (3683)
Statewide 24-Hour Hotline
for Women's Safety: 1-800-922-2600
Statewide Drug & Alcohol
Information & Referral Hotline: (617) 445-1500 ~ 1-800-327-5050
Al-Anon Family Groups of
Mass: (781) 843-5300
Department of Social
Services 24-Hour Hotline: 1-800-792-5200
Department of Social
Services Teen Peer Line (Support): 1-800-238-7868
Protection Commission: 1-800-426-9009
Department of Elder
Parent Stress 24-Hour
South Shore Women's Center
- Plymouth - 24 hr hotline - 508-746-2664
Women's Place - Brockton -
24 hr hotline - 508-588-2041
Brockton Family and
Community Resources - 24 hr hotline - 508-583-6498
Battered Women's Project -
New Bedford - 24 hr hotline - 508-992-4222
Addiction, Families and
Recovery - Plymouth - (Batterers Treatment Program) - 508-746-6737
For assistance or
information about a Restraining Order, call the District Attorney's
Office Mon. - Fri. 9:00 AM - 5:00 PM at
508-584-8120 or the East Bridgewater Police
Dept at 508-368-7223
After business hours call
the District Attorney's Victim Witness 24 hour hotline 508-583-3306
Parental Stress Line -
1. Safety During an Explosive
A. If an argument seems
unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an
exit, avoid the bathroom, kitchen, or any area with possible weapons.
B. Practice how to get out
of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator or
stairwell would be best.
C. Have a packed bag ready
and keep it in an undisclosed but accessible place in order to leave
D. Identify a neighbor you
can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they
hear a disturbance coming from your home.
E. Devise a code word to use
with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the
F. Decide and plan for where
you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will
need to )
G. Use your instincts and
judgment. If the situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser
what he/she wants in order to calm the person down. You have the right
to protect your self until you are out of danger.
H. Always remember - YOU
DON'T DESERVE TO BE HIT OR THREATENED!
2. Safety when
preparing to leave.
A. Open a savings account in
your own name to establish or increase your independence. Think of other
ways you can increase your independence.
B. Leave money, extra keys,
copies of important documents and extra clothing with someone you trust
so you can leave quickly.
C. Determine who would be
able to let you stay with them, or lend you money.
D. Keep the shelter phone
number close at hand and keep some change or a calling card on you at
all times for emergency phone calls.
E. Review your safety plan
as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave the
batterer. REMEMBER - LEAVING THE BATTERER IS THE MOST DANGEROUS TIME!
3. Safety in you
A. Change the locks on your
doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices for
B. Discuss a safety plan
with your children for when you are not with them.
C. Inform you children's
school, day care, etc., about who is authorized to pick up your
D. Inform neighbors and the
landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should
call the police if they see him/her near your home.
4. Safety with a
A. Keep your protective
order on you at all times. (when you change your purse, that should be
the first thing that goes in it)
B. Call the police if your
partner breaks that protective order.
C. Think of alternative ways
to keep yourself and children safe if the police can't respond right
D. Inform your family,
friends, neighbors, and coworkers that you have a protective order in
5. Safety on the
job and in public.
A. Decide who at work you
will inform of your situation. This should include office or building
security. (provide them with a picture if possible)
B. Arrange to have some one
screen your telephone calls if possible.
C. Devise a safety plan for
when you leave work. Have some one escort you to your car, bus or train.
Use a variety of routes to get home if possible. Think about what you
would do if something happened while going home (i.e. while in your car,
on the bus, etc.)
6. Your safety
and emotional health.
A. If you are thinking about
returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative
plan with some one you trust.
B. If you must communicate
with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.
C. Have positive thoughts
about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs.
D. Read books articles and
poems that help you feel stronger.
E. Decide who you can call
to talk freely and openly to give you the support you need.
F. Plan to attend a victims
or women's support group for at least two weeks to gain support from
others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
7. If you are a
teen in a violent dating relationship.
A. Decide which friend,
teacher, relative or police officer you can tell.
B. Contact an advocate at
the court to decide how to obtain a restraining order and make a safety
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